Having lost 180 lbs. (still more to go, especially if I want the loose skin to tighten up) and having been slimmer in the past, I am well aware it affects one’s romantic prospects, even though some women seem to think only women get rejected for their weight. But I’m not asking about that…
How much does being really large, even when a lot of it isn’t muscle, influence how seriously one is taken? I know that I tend to be shy and soft spoken and I never so much as raise my voice (I’ve limited my outbursts to the web where people know there’s no real danger.) but still I’ve been told I was intimidating.
Many times I’ve been told something to the effect that when someone first met me, I was really scary looking but once I smiled and spoke, I was like some giant teddy bear.
Having lost the weight though, I wonder if the shyness and soft spokenness JUST seems effeminate?
Does being BIG make a guy seem more masculine, even if it’s not deemed attractive?
How Does Obesity Connect With Masculinity?
July 30th, 2010
Comments ( 6 )
Feed for this Entry Trackback Leave a comment
-
-
-
-
-
I never thought of someone as masculine or not masculine based on weight. Shyness and being soft spoken doesn’t mean effeminate to me. It’s hard for me to think of everything in terms of masculinity or femininity,as much as I wanted to help you out on this one.
-
Because a Big guy is harder to fend off than a thin guy.
It’s a matter of who can overpower who. It’s all a psychological pissing match. Even if no one recognizes that this crosses their minds, it’s whats really ticking in them. Our male genes are telling us who’s alpha male and who isn’t. I’m not sure how obesity effects directly, but it obviously plays a role.
Added: Congratulations on losing the weight! That ain’t easy.
Leave a comment
You sound really stupid. If you are a fat guy and improved on your hygiene, and have money, you can get thin girls.